Saturday, May 28, 2016

Peace Out

I have been having some difficult "mom moments" lately.  I am parenting a preteen with only early childhood experience and am in particular need of the "users guide" for my 12 1/2 year old model.  Like Dorothy said to the Wizard, "You don't have anything in that black bag for me, do you?" 
I am faithful that "love conquers all" - love and peace of mind. It seems I get myself into a bind when I let my anxiety take over, or let my son's anxiety rule.I just learned that 25 percent of kids from 13-18 have been diagnosed with anxiety disorders (click here to read the article), and it is hard to say how many others suffer but haven't been diagnosed. And what about younger children?  
So lately I have been reflecting on the nature of anxiety. Anxiety can look like belligerence and disrespect in major melt down moments.  When I am able to step back from my or my son's anxiety, I am able to shine the light of consciousness on the shadows and respond with love. The affirmation "I see you, I hear you, I care about you" is my guiding light, my north star... 
Mindfulness practices are another source of strength and guidance. I am much better both as a parent and teacher after I have done my yoga and meditated!
There are more and more amazing mindfulness resources for kids and families.  One of my new favorites is "Peace Out Guided Relaxations for Kids".  You can find them on You Tube!  They are a lovely antidote for the toxicity of anxiety in both you and your child. 
  Here is a sample:
Peace and love to you and your little one!